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Imnotthemessiah - 26 Aug, 2024 - 11:06PM

“But your marriage vows” they say. Yeah, part of most people’s vows is “to have and to hold” but no one talks about that bit of their vows which get reneged upon.

skit1985 - 26 Aug, 2024 - 09:56PM

Thanks OP,
Today is my first day on IE . I fall into this category , but not for revenge . It took a while to get over the shock and hurt, but at the end of the day I did my part in the relationship to the best of my abilities and in good faith .

The choices in the order of preference for me are
- Forgiveness and giving it another go. ( Not working !)
- respectful open relationship where kids are not affected much and both are financially less stretched .
- Divorce
- Turn a blind eye and live a stoic life .


Time to move on from hopelessly romantic to pragmatically romantic .

Noir Ce Soir - 26 Aug, 2024 - 09:11PM

I pop onto this forum from time to time and I'm always amazed how quickly what should be the topic of conversation descends into weak jokes and cheap innuendo. It's a shame because some people really need to talk about this and get true support from their fellow adulterers. This is not a path one treads lightly and it would be good to share the burden and guilt in a serious forum occasionally. Sadly that doesn't look like it will ever happen.

Elusive Traveller - 26 Aug, 2024 - 02:21PM

I did it first, tbh I find this helps keep our marriage on the right path. If I didn't then I would have left years ago. I love my wife, but sadly we are two different people who have nothing in common other than our children. I would never leave her, so I like to chat with other women who help fill the void and the occasional sex is a bonus. I'm more interested in the relationship side x

Exciteme234 - 26 Aug, 2024 - 01:55PM

Don’t overthink why, just enjoy it

Paula99 - 26 Aug, 2024 - 11:54AM

There is an old saying …He who takes revenge will dig 2 graves…
Having an affair just because your partner has had one isn’t going to solve anything …it just makes you bitter…

I am sure there are many stories that can be relayed on here😂🤣😂🤣

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Superman100136 - 26 Aug, 2024 - 10:20AM

100% true. Sad really isn’t it !

Naughty in NW - 29 Oct, 2023 - 06:56PM

Kabaddia

Maybe work a bit more on your spelling and grammar. Just speaking for myself, but a poor grasp of English is a massive turn off for me.

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Kabaddia - 28 Oct, 2023 - 06:31PM

I'm here to give the ladys gud timenand fun age doesn't mean nothing for me married or not I dont mind

Ela Doove - 28 Oct, 2023 - 04:09PM

I'm on here because my relationship has gone down hill since my husband got convicted of being a child sex offender. He is now in jail. I have always been open but he refused to let me be me. So I went down a dark rabbit hole of depression to try and please him but it wasn't making me happy. Now I am alone and free to do what I want to do and to be who I want to be.

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