A polite no?
So as I’m here looking for an IE lots of people spring up that I’m not physically attracted too, how do you let that person down without sounding horrible and blunt?
I’m a nice person and I find telling people you’re not my type really offensive so I end up ghosting them which is also bad but how else can I say it?
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tlove1279 - 27 Feb, 2021 - 07:04AM
Most of the time when I login I get quite a few messages. Some of them are just chat starters like “Hi” or “What are you up to today”. Some of them are long copy and paste messages that they send to a lot of women. Some of them are clearly messages from men who spent the time to read your profile and explain what they liked and why they think it is a match. I always try to reply to the last type and politely say we are not a match. I usually ignore others. I am sure there are ones that I missed or got swamped and couldn’t reply. Sorry to those thoughtful men🙂 I always try to be polite and respectful but usually it is practically not possible to reply every single message.
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Rustiqe plaisir - 26 Feb, 2021 - 07:49PM
@Mary Contrary- just wondering, what if I don’t like chips?
1434216 - 26 Feb, 2021 - 06:38PM
Mary Contrary - 23 Feb, 2021 - 11:37PM
I guess the secret is finding the ones that don’t normally feed at the council tip.
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MayMac - 24 Feb, 2021 - 08:30AM
Most definitely agree that it’s best to be truthful, this can be done politely and respectfully, the exact opposite to ghosting!
1434661 - 23 Feb, 2021 - 11:37PM
@ Bogart (and anyone wondering)
The experience for women can only be compared to throwing a chip down next to a flock of seagulls (someone said this to me and I laughed but it's so true!)
I don't know about others but when I log in I receive about 20 or so messages within half an hour. As soon as I've finished replying I'm circling back to the first guy to reply to his next message. I don't block unless they were bang out of order and I'm never rude and will respond to all messages.
I imagine for women who may not have the patience or find that overwhelming they will just ignore.
My only advice would be if you are certain that you match to her requirements that you message again after a couple of days if she has read your message, just in case it got swamped with the rest of the messages she may have received.
Following on from that you'd have to accept that she's not interested.
Good luck guys x
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1435806 - 23 Feb, 2021 - 10:52PM
If some-one has made the effort to send me a message, I reply. I always read the profiles of the women I would like to make contact with, and take the time to send them an individual message based on it, and ask for a reply, even if it is a no. It does take time, so have not messaged many, but apart from one lovely and reasoned negative, I have not received any others ..... yet. I have no idea of how many personally crafted messages you receive ladies, but if you do, please do try to say something back, a no thanks is sufficient. If the gent still persists, block him. It seems you have plenty of choice besides.
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1439057 - 22 Feb, 2021 - 11:01PM
I just think it’s best to be honest. Ghosting is worse. You’re not my type is fine. Not offensive and gets the job done.
1436596 - 22 Feb, 2021 - 10:42PM
It's the ones that share their pass first and it's a no thanks, then they pester you for yours. Absolutely no point!
It's so difficult on websites like this as initially you rely on that physical attraction. I'm more of a personality person but feel like I would be wasting time soley connecting with this. In the past I can say maybe I've not fancied someone initially but getting to know them there has been some sort of click. Feel I can't do this on here.
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ExoticOrchid - 22 Feb, 2021 - 09:57PM
SeekingYoume - 22 Feb, 2021 - 08:39PM
"Some people just don’t accept it.
Which then causes a issues"
That's when you block them ... simples!
SeekingYoume - 22 Feb, 2021 - 08:39PM
There’s being honest which I wholly agree with.
BUT
Some people just don’t accept it.
Which then causes a issues
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