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Crystal Ball - 09 Dec, 2024 - 05:34PM

I don't feel ghosting is the answer. If I feel that somebody isn't for me, I let them know by just saying 'you're not for me' or, 'you have a nice smile, but I donthink we're suited'. Something along those lines, and always with a good luck k in your search or best wishes in your search to finish it off. Plus a 😀, too.

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Three Little Words - 09 Dec, 2024 - 05:17PM

I used to get pretty upset at not getting responses to messages but now I’ve given up getting riled up.

People have differing reasons as to why they don’t reply. One woman told me that she didn’t want to upset me with a rejection so thought saying nothing would be the kinder of two evils. Another was working under the assumption that men paid to see messages so not answering was a way of saving me money!

At the end of the day, people have the choice as to how they interact and we as the respondents have to respect that. If there’s no reply, the other party clearly doesn’t want the conversation to carry on, so all you can do is accept it and walk on.

Paula99 - 09 Dec, 2024 - 05:17PM

Sandokan1990…

People don’t get offended …they choose to be offended

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Testingthewater321 - 09 Dec, 2024 - 05:11PM

No harm in being honest, if you are nice about it and people take offence that’s their issue
One’ persons attraction is another’s “not my type” that’s normal
A lot of people tell me I’m attractive but also many think I’m not. That’s life

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HugDealer - 09 Dec, 2024 - 04:56PM

Ghosting seems to be the easiest option although I would prefer a reason. It’s a very British thing to not say it as it is - polite but unhelpful !!

Sandokan1900 - 09 Dec, 2024 - 04:38PM

I think everyone get offended easily in these days😂😂😂

MagicMouse321 - 09 Dec, 2024 - 03:56PM

"Oh what a shame - no butterflies for me sadly, but good luck in your search."

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smartypants12345 - 09 Dec, 2024 - 02:21PM

If someone is offended by a polite, ‘no thanks’ then that’s not the fault or responsibility of the sender. If they are offended by ghosting, then it is :)

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marklondonengland - 09 Dec, 2024 - 12:04PM

I'm not sure why this is a problem. It's easy to say no thanks, without being blunt. Most of us have done this all our lives. You can be friendly and just say that it's not the right time or the chemistry isn't working... although maybe rejected men become more abusive quicker than rejected women?

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Clickable Connection - 09 Dec, 2024 - 10:13AM

Ok so first up ghosting is simply rude and not necessary, whatever the gender you are.

I mean if you're in a bar and someone chats you up , you don't ignore them - you respond to them in some way - same should apply here.

Ghosting is a basically a way of not needing to deliver bad news to someone else - it's a cowards way - grow some balls and just say how it is in a nice polite way. If they give you aggravation for it, then you have every right to ghost or block them.

It's never nice to receive a no thanks , but this is a dating site , and anyone here needs to expect a high level or rejection - it's the game , deal with it.

Sorry if that sounds harsh , but don't take it personally and move on. You don't need to be heartless, just nice but firm. If the other person can't deal with it , it's on them - it's not your fault.

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