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1447655 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 03:57PM

Distance is a TOTAL ball ache and a pain in the arse...and not even the good type of pain in the arse! What on earth could it be that would possibly make someone travel hours to get to a specific lover, over a convenient one, I wonder ? ? ? ? 😉

If what you want is convenient sex and something fun to fill a gap (pardon the pun) then those are very realistic and adequate expectations that should be able to be met within a 90 minute radius.

If you want the fireworks you might have to open your remit, because it is so rare, and unique to each person. For me I don't think it can be found on my doorstep. I seem to need something other for the 'Attraction Claxton' to sound. 'Convenient' doesnt work as a sexy adjective to me.

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chris19389 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 03:56PM

“Mine” plural redfirefox? How do you have enough time?!

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1408586 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 03:09PM

I’ve had a thing with a guy who visited my location with work. He was great but he was only here once a month and if I wasn’t free on those specific evenings we couldn’t meet. We were basically very occasional fuck buddies. I don’t think the work travel affairs work personally and would avoid in the future

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Eejit69 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 02:59PM

I have to admit that I’m one of those work travelers and adjust my search accordingly (it’s one region rather than national or global).
The main theme for this is the opportunity rather than a girl in every port (hello sailor!). We have to be realistic about actually meeting and spending time together and unless someone is within a couple of miles the opportunities don’t stand out in my experience. When they do, there are all the complications that have been well pointed out.
As others have said, it doesn’t make me a player (I’ve neither the time or energy for more than one affair!) and it can broaden horizons, and maybe make one put a little extra effort in?
Clearly individual circumstances will apply.

1585013 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 02:37PM

I agree - too close is not great for obvious reasons ..

But as said by an IE member yesterday - it’s more time you can spend together without causing alarm of anyone else is a good thing ..

I do travel for work -so it could be said it’s easier for me .. but would still want a single connection with someone - that has to be explored .. to get truly an understanding of each other and each others needs ..

But an occasional longer distance for reendevous is a nice thing , where you can both enjoy the freedom of not bumping into any estranged relatives or friends - duck and cover isn’t a rewarding experience .. so someone told me once … honest

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1582894 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 02:27PM

I had a long affair with someone 2 hours away, used to meet in the middle a couple of times a month. It was deliberate to make sure there was zero crossover in our real lives. First couple of years was fine, but after a while it became more and more difficult to see eachother. I wouldn’t do that kind of distance again.

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1588499 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 02:21PM

Has anybody actually bumped into an IE whilst out and about? I guess as long as your spouse didn't see your initial surprised reaction you could easily play it cool and walk on by, giving a knowing smile of course.

lovetogo - 21 Mar, 2023 - 02:04PM

I wouldnt go out of the county,but.i wouldnt want them to close either.

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1588499 - 21 Mar, 2023 - 01:49PM

Good timelines, Ferrari. My last IE was about 1:30 away so it was typically 45 mins each for meets. About 30 minutes seems optimum but not too close. Agree with Rff though, if you like them enough you'll do what it takes!

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Redfirefox - 21 Mar, 2023 - 01:40PM

Mine are quite a distance away however they may be worth the inconvenience of it. When there’s a will there’s a way.

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