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Amoris Laetitia - 13 Jan, 2025 - 11:10PM

I seem to always have very long term relationships, the last 9 years, 2 relationships both from this site. They become the one person that I miss the most and the void is palpable. Not just the physical part (but that is pretty much up there), but actually just having that connection with someone without all the daily struggles. The difficulty is obviously keep things in balance and moving through the relationship at the same tempo. That is the bit I struggle with! But, it is worth the effort when you find that special one!

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Clickable Connection - 12 Jan, 2025 - 12:05AM

Doubleohseven - 11 Jan, 2025 - 08:41PM
It's nice you've been able to stay friends - well done you guys 👍

jlo909 - 11 Jan, 2025 - 08:51PM
I think any affair that long , you'll develop deep feelings, hell it can happen sooner than that. Just one of the things we have to learn to navigate

jlo909 - 11 Jan, 2025 - 08:51PM

Mine was like a marriage within a marriage….together for 11 years….really lived for each other and became too close. Ended because we decided it was the fairest thing for our families…..& neither of us was brace enough to give up what we had! Do differently…..just not fall so head over heels in love xx

Doubleohseven - 11 Jan, 2025 - 08:41PM

My 1st long term affair (2+ years). One day she asked me to sit down and she put an end to it. She explained she had wanted to do things "outdoors" too and I had I had always prioritised "indoors"... I listened and learnt. Every affair I have had since, I have ensured to have a more balanced mix. She and I are still friends and talk and meet - nomromantically - 8 years later.

Johno - 11 Jan, 2025 - 07:48PM

Hello everyone..
Anyone from old Trafford xx

Delicious Chaos - 11 Jan, 2025 - 05:57PM

Raven R
Awe sorry to hear this but it happens and completely agree with the post below. Definitely not your fault. Best piece of advice to you don’t keep all your eggs in one basket. Chat and meet more than one, then you also have a fallback if this happens. I’m sure the right one will come along very soon, and the fact that this one is saying it’s not a of issue clearly is spinning you a yarn, girl you’re much more switched on then rhat. Block him, next…..

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Paula99 - 11 Jan, 2025 - 03:41PM

Raven R …

It’s got nothing to do with you …he’s had the jitters and ‘guilt ‘ has kicked in …some guys don’t know fantasy from reality unfortunately…just move on ….I call these the ‘undead ‘ 🧟‍♂️…they will be back …😂

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Clickable Connection - 11 Jan, 2025 - 02:47PM

Raven R - 11 Jan, 2025 - 02:10PM

That is annoying eh - been there myself. In my opinion it's a slow fade - he's had a rethink , and does not have the courage to tell you , so instead slowly fading away

I could be wrong , but from what you describe, and my own personal experience - that's what's going on here. So my advice would be , forgot about him , and look elsewhere

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Sukme67 - 11 Jan, 2025 - 02:15PM

Looking for a women can anyone talk

Raven R - 11 Jan, 2025 - 02:10PM

I’m quite new to all this. I was chatting to a lovely man for about two weeks when we met for coffee. We clicked straight away. Lots of laughs and good conversation. There was an obvious attraction the first time we lay eyes on each other.
Before we departed we had some really nice kisses.
We agreed we definitely want to get together soon. Since we departed he very rarely even messaged me anymore. It went from several a day down to one or two and even those texts seemed very flat.
So what did I do wrong ? He told me I’m overthinking it but there has definitely been a shift.
Comments or advice please.