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Toffee.macchiato4 - 26 Mar, 2025 - 05:30PM

Hi OP
I really like that you get the implications of him continuing to pay for his subscription here. It’s not cheap and he is obviously err liaising with other women.

I hope 🤞 it’s not a painful realisation for you. Yous sound ace 👍

Consider moderating your thinking 🤔 to suit. Expecting exclusivity might be a little far fetched even when they say they are about exclusivity.

I say enjoy the laughs, enjoy the sex and protect yourself. Chat to other men too even if you’re not getting jiggy with them.
Life is for living. I say enjoy ☺️

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KinkyKim195 - 26 Mar, 2025 - 05:17PM

I've never met anyone from here but I'd be cautious to start with, I'd even go as far as to play together for a while online, just until the habit was changed, you'd definitely have fun together too! Xx

Funguy77 - 26 Mar, 2025 - 05:02PM

Like it’s been said before trust is earned simple as that

TheSpartanLife - 26 Mar, 2025 - 04:43PM

Ah, the classic “I swear I’ve cancelled, I’m just here for the memories” routine 😏

Look, if he’s still paying for access to the site after swearing exclusivity, it’s either one of two things:

He’s terrible at managing subscriptions (and probably still paying for a gym membership from 2017), or

He’s keeping his options open while telling you what you want to hear.

Your gut usually isn’t wrong — especially when it’s whispering while your heart’s shouting.

For what it’s worth, trust in here is like lingerie: it works best when it’s a little transparent and fits just right 😉

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Buxom and bored - 26 Mar, 2025 - 04:09PM

Paula99

Of course, and what one person is happy with might not be what another will settle for. The OP isn't happy about her IE potentially reneging on their original exclusivity agreement. She can either put up with it or move on. I wouldn't say he is playing nice though if they were as exclusive as she says... plenty of other people who will be honest with her on here so for her own sanity, my advice would be to put it down to experience and move on. The beauty of being anonymous on here is that you can block and delete if you don't like them

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MisterBreeze - 26 Mar, 2025 - 04:03PM

I don't agree with his behaviour at all. And I would bet he'll 'blow you out' the moment he finds somebody else, who he thinks is more suited/better for him.
Give him a swerve or play him at his own game.
What's good for the goose, is good for the gander. 😀

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budgie817 - 26 Mar, 2025 - 04:01PM

Don’t talk to us, talk to him and lay out your concerns.
Explain how it looks in relation to what he has told you.
Ask if he is ‘keeping his options open’ and if that means he isn’t getting what he wants from you.
Or is he just trying to shag everyone he can and lying to you about exclusivity.

Then go with your gut instinct as to if he is being straight with you and if you can carry on in the situation.

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Paula99 - 26 Mar, 2025 - 03:49PM

Buxom and Bored…

You can protect yourself but you can’t make the rules here …this is not a marriage made in heaven..it takes a ‘rare’ IE to meet the criteria of exclusive ….you can’t block everyone …the key is to be mindful and ‘play nice ‘

Buxom and bored - 26 Mar, 2025 - 03:14PM

If he's told you he's happy with you and committed then there's no reason for him to be on here, let alone paying for a subscription. Protect your health and get yourself a sexual health test ASAP to rule out any nasties then insist on protection if you continue to see him.
If it bothers you that he's chatting/ potentially meeting other women, then bite the bullet and tell him you're not happy with that arrangement.
Some people like to rack up notches on the bedpost and will tell you anything you want to hear just to get into you're undies, but if you've specifically discussed being exclusive, then personally I wouldn't even give him another chance. Block, delete and find someone who suits you better

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marklondonengland - 26 Mar, 2025 - 02:36PM

It also depends on circumstances. For a married person, it's already challenging to keep one affair going so in this case you could be justified in asking if your partner really wants to make it work as an ongoing thing or they are just seeking one encounter after another... I did have a period on here years ago when I was single and I made ir clear that I didn't want a serious long-term relationship - which is why I was on here as a single man - but at the same time I would not expect a married woman to be insisting that she can tell me who I can and cannot see - so it was clear for everyone...