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Dave 2025 - 03 May, 2025 - 11:30PM

Peaches 1.

Just seen your post and you want a man's perspective when they say curves what are they referring too.. .

Well I can not answer every man's view but for me the womans body is full of curves and it's not all about the boobs. More importantly all bodies differ from on female to another and their profiles differ with size which makes it so fascinating and beautiful. So the undulating changes from bottom to waste front and back up all the way to the neck are a world to explore and enjoy. Soz so to answer your question I definitely don't just mean boobs when I refer to curves.. For many men the more fuller women are more attractive for that reason .
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CassieJ - 03 May, 2025 - 10:24PM

What a great topic ! For me a share pw early on as being on the large side aand 52
I’m not everyone’s cuppa and I also need too feel some physical attraction? Height wise ? I’m 5 -7 so would want someone at least 5-10, I have dated men shorter but tbh when it comes too certain positions it’s been difficult . . Above all though I do value some cerebral connection and that’s what piques my interest in a profile

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Bigneo69 - 03 May, 2025 - 09:12PM

That’s a great point well made

Peaches1 - 03 May, 2025 - 09:03PM

cutenessburnt

I wish I was still a size 10.

OK what is the general norm?

I'm 5ft 2 so hardly going to get someone shorter than me and can a man please explain curves? Does that mean big tits?

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cutenessburnt - 03 May, 2025 - 07:05PM

I don't care how tall you are.
Honestly.
I do care about humour, compassion, personality and PASSION.

I get knocked back because I'm not a size 10.
It used to bother me, until I realised I don't give a sugar what these men think.
Love yourself.
Be open to who you might meet.
That is all.

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Doubleohseven - 03 May, 2025 - 05:13PM

Just to conclude (if only ever! One can only hope) on female / male AVERAGE preference for Tall /Narrow [well documented by 30 yrs of evolutionary biology].
Here's the good/bad news.
For shorter men: the bad news is that you can't grow your height. That's life.
The good news? 1) you CAN do 1,000 things that will make you attractive (personality, humor, body shape are all moldable); 2) as it turns out, women's AVERAGE preference for height is not rigid at all, much to their own surprise. Even for attractive ladies, a man with personality / humour but < 6' is rare enough to (and if someone can't find such men, maybe it says a lot).
For more "curvaceous" women: the good news is that you can work on your body shape. The bad news is that, if you don't want to, the men that willing to compromise on their AVERAGE preferences may not be the ones you are looking for. That's life.
And then there's those who want and find a lady who's athletic, smart, funny! The greedy bastards!

laugar164 - 03 May, 2025 - 04:49PM

It's a good job I'm 6ft then that's all I can say

SirrahNek - 03 May, 2025 - 04:27PM

I have a very good friend who’s really short, and isn’t an oil painting. But he’s kind, generous, funny, intelligent (all things that would come across in a forum) and does well with the ladies. I’m sorry, but the whole I’m short, I can’t find anyone shtick doesn’t work - if it did then all men would be 7 foot plus, hereditary having bred out anyone who was less than 6 foot.
What works, I think, is making an effort, not being desperate, and taking an interest in the other person (but yes, good personal hygiene and taking some pride in your appearance too - make the most of what you have!)

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s7064162 - 03 May, 2025 - 03:35PM

It’s probably a primative desire on both sites. Taller the man the likely to be a protector or provider. Dress sizes or maybe indicates child bearing ability? Fair enough, your preferences are your preferences I just not likely to meet all of them or even one lol

tmn2024 - 03 May, 2025 - 03:31PM

@Enigma..

I'm not here to argue with you, let's get that on the table up front.

But.....

My experience on IE is that I don't even get as far as showing my personality and intelligence to anyone. One look at my profile - 5'6" - and that's it. No more communication follows. So, under those circumstances, I can't see how your argument can stand up, where you ask where are all the men with humour, personality and intelligence.

I remain convinced that there are so many opportunities for women on here, if a man doesn't get past the initial screening of physical attributes, he gets nowhere at all. We're back to the old story of women's inboxes being so stuffed that they can't keep up.

That is my lived experience here for 6 months now. So I'm afraid it'll be an uphill struggle to convince me otherwise.

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