A polite no?
So as I’m here looking for an IE lots of people spring up that I’m not physically attracted too, how do you let that person down without sounding horrible and blunt?
I’m a nice person and I find telling people you’re not my type really offensive so I end up ghosting them which is also bad but how else can I say it?
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Delicious Chaos - 12 Jan, 2025 - 06:11PM
Lec2024
Meeting someone you work with is completely different to here. I’m sure you did fall for her, no doubt the fact that you saw her everyday in a work setting may have had something to do with it.
This world is completely different, let’s not kid ourselves, a photo has to have something about it for you to want to continue a conversation with a view to meet. Anyone who says otherwise is frankly kidding themselves
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ExoticOrchid - 12 Jan, 2025 - 05:06PM
L2024 - 03:57PM
You worked together ... that's a totally different scenario to IE where we only have the (1) profile to read (2) some initial chat (3)photo exchange. Most wouldn't have the time to be having endless meets and chats.
I do try to be very forgiving about photos and if the chat is good, will usually wait until meeting in person to decide but then I'm single and have the time. Most marrieds don't have that.
Lec2024 - 12 Jan, 2025 - 03:57PM
And herin lies the problem. Physical attraction is only a part of it. Some are completely unrealistic when it comes to instant attraction. The person I’ve fallen for the hardest was someone who I didn’t fancy at all at first. Then, when we got to know each other - we worked together - I completely fell for her and thought she was so attractive I couldn’t take my eyes off her. And guess what? She was the same ! Funny how it goes.
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leggysheila - 12 Jan, 2025 - 03:32PM
I have the same problem x I think both ways are naughty and upsetting for the person c
laugar164 - 12 Jan, 2025 - 12:03PM
If I was to get a no thanks ,not for me I'd reply thanks for taking the time to reply and I hope you find your ideal IE
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Enigma.. - 12 Jan, 2025 - 11:46AM
I usually just say thanks but you are not my type or not what I’m looking for.
Wish them all the best and good luck 🍀.
Most males on the site except what I say and my reason for saying thanks but no thanks.
Politeness costs nothing.
However… I’ve been ghosted.
I’ve had some nasty and rude comments made about me.
I’ve had a few men ask why I’m not interested in them and then go off on one when they don’t like my reply 🤷🏼♀️.
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Delicious Chaos - 12 Jan, 2025 - 11:15AM
Just a thanks but you’re not for me, simple as that.
Sometimes I don’t even bother as in the past I have received some backlash for my honesty
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Clickable Connection - 12 Jan, 2025 - 09:11AM
Ms Cashmere - 21 Dec, 2024 - 10:35PM
Totally agree with your approach. It's friendly , and let's then know definitively that your not interested.
Paula99 - 22 Dec, 2024 - 12:40PM
If they don't take no as an answer, and carry on pestering, I think that's when a block is necessary
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Paula99 - 22 Dec, 2024 - 12:40PM
Ms Cashmere…
Sadly your words fall on deaf ears…there are some that refuse point blank to take No for an answer😕..
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