What matters more, looks or personality?
On the flip side, say you're chatting to someone nice and you click and you haven't seen them, but you've been chatting to them for so long, but when you do you see they're not attractive but you still like them and proceed? Has this happened to anyone?
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EmnEm123 - 05 May, 2025 - 04:02PM
Yeah, personality all the way.
If you get a big fat guy with BO, hasn't shaved in several days, is a smoker, has food stains down his front, well that's just what we women desire most!
To quote someone else here....
This post was made with my tongue firmly in my cheek!
True story......
I had a grim, filthy looking guy offer to meet me whilst his son was playing football, apparently he could sneak away.
I think most of us know what we're doing, but there's a bloody limit.
P.S If he was gorgeous it would have made no difference, that's a prick. This is a follow up from the other day. If you don't take care of yourself, don't expect others to be interested in you.
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Kisses The Texture Of Velvet - 05 May, 2025 - 06:32AM
I think personality is more attractive than "looks". However, I like to see the photos early on because I want to check the man looks clean and well presented. I'm not going to kiss someone with rotten teeth! I also think photos are a talking point if the setting is a hobby or a foreign location.
Paula99 - 03 May, 2025 - 06:58PM
This is a subject that seems to root out everyone’s insecurities/failings …
Not everything is as black and white as it seems …
We can’t all be attracted to every person we see ….for me being not attracted to most of the opposite sex because I need to have a deep emotional connection to be sexually attracted to a person is difficult at times ….its not really about the outer layer as they may look great …looks are visually important and you do need to have the initial attraction for something to progress…
At the beginning you are eager to learn/explore your mindset with no assumptions but base your knowledge on the above aka looks/personality ..now I find I do have expectations not in terms of looks/ personalities but of life experiences/ character and interests….so for me if he hasn’t got those 3 qualities then the lines are blurred..
Edward1260 - 03 May, 2025 - 05:10PM
I like to get photos out of the way quickly. Some people are focused more on looks. So if photos are the gatekeepers, live with it and move on.
TailInstinct - 03 May, 2025 - 02:53AM
It's a bit of a false paradox I feel . Our minds and what we say and think is as arbitrary as the looks we are blessed with . There is no reason to place more weight on intellect over looks! We are here to attract and be attracted in the purest form. There are no rules .
Peaches1 - 02 May, 2025 - 08:29PM
Both is the simple answer on here. Don't take risks for mediocre people.
KerryElizabeth - 02 May, 2025 - 02:47PM
I'm happy to let guys see my photos early on. With some, I've put time into many messages, and then they see my photos and I'm not what they're looking for. I'd rather meet someone in person, and not judge on looks alone. Happy to see photos but for me it's not essential in the early stages. If someone comes across as a dickhead in messages, then I don't care if they look like Chris Hemsworth, I won't want to meet them.
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PentUp_energy - 02 May, 2025 - 01:54PM
I'm a visual person, but I need both.
The visual aspect I can judge quicky so I like to exchange my pw early on. Then if the feeling is reciprocated, I try to find out if we click or if it feels like sucking blood out of a rock 😅
Dickincider - 02 May, 2025 - 01:32PM
In an everyday setting where I'm able to get to know someone inperson I would say personality. But in here I would say looks
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