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bornagainvirgin - 22 May, 2025 - 01:22PM

Continued.....

The use of pillows etc, anything which helps you be more comfortable.

As with any relationship, consideration for your partners comfort , pleasure and level of involvement should be paramount anyway. A partner worth knowing is going to be willing to work together, for both of your enjoyment, & you will be surprised just how much can be gained from exploring together to find what works best.
On a personal note I find that the endorphins, which are released from a satisfying sexual encounter, are a powerful painkiller & make it a truly worthwhile experience on so many levels.

You are still a woman with a woman's needs and desires. Don't let your illness define who you are!
Good luck .

bornagainvirgin - 22 May, 2025 - 01:14PM

As someone who suffers from long term health issues, one of which is a general pain condition , I can completely empathise with your situation.

Believe me that it is perfectly possible to have a fulfilling sexual relationship in your situation without resorting to lampshade swinging or wardrobe jumping!

Yes you will need to be upfront with a potential partner, & there will be those who run, but when to bring it up can be difficult to gauge. But definitely before you get to the point of meeting.
Personally I find it good to mention that I have health issues during messages or chats, but don't go into too much detail initially. Questions will follow if your potential lover is sufficiently interested to know how it may affect a relationship. It's up to you to decide how much to share but ALWAYS be honest, explain that it does not detract from the desire for a full relationship nor does it make it impossible.
If it gets to a meet then you can have a frank discussion about how various positions etc...

marklondonengland - 22 May, 2025 - 01:04PM

You should be upfront about it so you filter out the deranged idiots who think that sex needs to be a challenging marathon to be fun. I did once meet an IE who had pain from osteoporosis and we had a lot of fun together and have remained in touch even though she is now too unwell to consider anything intimate. If you are with someone who has imagination then there is no end of pleasure you can give each other - it does not need to involve any lampshades...

Paula99 - 22 May, 2025 - 12:35PM

You and only you know the amount of pain/discomfort you are experiencing….None of us are getting any younger but I am sure there are some that will treat you with the respect that you deserve..
Happy hunting ♥️

Here we go 693 - 22 May, 2025 - 09:30AM

Firstly, I'm sorry to hear you're in souch pain. My mum had rheumatoid arthritis and was also in a lot of pain. I hope you're getting good treatment.
When you find someone you want to meet, I would be open about it, but alsoale it clear it doesn't mean you're dead or anything. I know there are plenty of players on here, but I would like to think there are also men with integrity, compassion (as well as passion) and sensitivity. Someone like that wouldn't let it bother them. As to how easy it is to find, that's anyone's guess! I wish you all the luck in finding someone who understands you, for who you are and what you can do, rather than what you can't do xx

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