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Paintednails - 17 Dec, 2024 - 10:37AM

It depends on the kind of person you are and what you are looking for. I was monogamous with my first IE guy for nearly two years WHY? Because I don't have time for men (reason I'm single) and I just wanted one man who didn't leave his socks at home. The most important thing, we really did click, on all levels mentally being the most important to both of us. You can't be "monogamous" if you don't click, something will always be missing and just like in your relationship, you'll go looking for it.

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boav91 - 17 Dec, 2024 - 06:57AM

By the way I certainly don’t judge anyone who has multiple, if that works for them then we are all here for a main reason and are not here to criticise others in case someone wondered . Each to their own

boav91 - 17 Dec, 2024 - 06:55AM

The thing life has taught me is that it is not always greener elsewhere. My IE is not the type to be happy with bed hoppers and I find the effort to be safe in the long term so too difficult and risky with multiple people. Being one of life’s planners too many variables introduces increased levels of uncertainty and risk.

For me I prefer getting to know that one person and explore each others needs in the context of what this is. Neither of us plan to leave our main partners so we realise we are the second relationship and the demands that places on us and the strain through lack of availability. This is where those who want more may go for more ie’s but we prefer to wait and make the most of what we have and enjoy that rather than risk it with others and the whole house of cards then falling down.

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David13 - 16 Dec, 2024 - 10:20PM

When I was younger I did have multiple IE’s.
I told them and it seemed to be a turn on for them - it even became competitive.
But now I’m only interested in one at a time.
I just want to learn all there is to know about that person and to see where our boundaries are.

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Clickable Connection - 16 Dec, 2024 - 10:02PM

Some people want / need more than one IE - it is what it is - don't think any of us can judge.

The only thing I'd say is just be honest with the people you're having multiple IEs with - it's only right........also for god sake use protection 😂😂

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laugar164 - 16 Dec, 2024 - 09:12PM

MagicM m321…
My analytic mind is doing overtime
With everything going on in one's life it's impossible to give your IE 100% you can give them 100% of the time spent together but that time is probably a fraction of your time compared to your other life.
I stop overthinking it now

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Paula99 - 16 Dec, 2024 - 05:57PM

MagicM m321…

I am not sure your stats are accurate in real life ….yes it’s easy to put stats to your time you spend with your IE ..
But ….it is possible and some guys are happy to share …

MagicMouse321 - 16 Dec, 2024 - 04:57PM

Give 1 x IE = 100% attention

Else it becomes diminishing returns 2 x IE = 50% attention, 4 x IE = 25% attention.

And you’re IE will notice if you’re giving it 25%!

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1544105 - 16 Dec, 2024 - 02:28PM

Just one IE is all I can handle. I don't have the time, money, or interest to entertain more than one IE. I'll give as close to 100% to my IE once I find them.
And in the past, I've only dated one at a time.

Enigma.. - 16 Dec, 2024 - 06:50AM

I know a former female member who was active on the site until earlier this year.
She said to me once…
Due to a lot of males on the site having limited availability the answer might be, in order to get a decent amount of satisfaction, multiple lovers/IE’s 🤷🏼‍♀️.
I thought she was joking 😆😝.

She wasn’t 😝😉.

She still has two lovers to this day 😉.

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