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John_Herc - 13 Mar, 2021 - 09:21PM

Some of the replies here are so depressing. Of course no means no, and I really cant understand the number in my gender that dont get that. From a blokes perspective, yes Id advise being really clear if its a no. Its best for both parties. Only an unreasonable person (of any gender) would think otherwise, and that just tells you you made the right decision. The great thing about online stuff like this is it allows you to do all of that safely (i hope) and avoid difficult situations. Take care and carry on being honest. Us honest blokes will value that x

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Enigma.. - 13 Mar, 2021 - 05:14PM

Be open and honest. If they cannot accept why you don’t feel a connection. Their loss.
I’ve only been on here for a few weeks but already have had a few “awkward” experiences lol. So much so I’ve have to block. And blocking is not my style. But hell...
I’m Scottish. A feisty, but honest, decent and sexy female. And if you don’t like what you see!?! Just say so!! It’s not that difficult!?!
Insults etc are not welcome. If you want to put me on the back burner while you try to look for something else. Jog on. I don’t do second best, never have done and never will. Just saying lol 😉 x

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Dejavous - 13 Mar, 2021 - 10:50AM

Rejection is always a bitter pill to swallow no matter how much it is sugar-coated. I think it is the responsibility of all the genuine members to make sure their profiles are as honest as possible about what they are looking for. This should avoid those difficult conversations and those that don't or can't be bothered are probably not worth pursuing anyway.

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1441937 - 09 Mar, 2021 - 06:13PM

@gemini2310

Ironic 😂

1422107 - 09 Mar, 2021 - 04:30PM

The majority I have said no to are guys way out of my age range (which I said upfront in my profile) it's easy just be straight up on the first post. If they keep messaging I don't see the problem with not messaging back?

1117169 - 06 Mar, 2021 - 10:47AM

@Delishass

Completely agree. Despite my profile being crystal clear on distance, 95% of the contact I get is from ladies hundreds of miles away. It shows they either have not read it and / or are adopting the scattergun approach, or, more likely are spammers.

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1117169 - 06 Mar, 2021 - 10:43AM

Whilst " Ghosting" despicable though it is, does go on, I think there is a fundamental and more widespread reason why introductory messages get ignored. Its because the person posting the profile is doing it for fun and thrills. They have no intention of communicating with anyone never mind meeting them. This is why template profiles have little veracity.

On a more positive note, maybe the site could make available a standard polite " Thanks but no thanks" reply button for those who can't bring themselves to do it personally. On the other hand this might make it far too easy to reject people on a whim.

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Your Sexy Woman - 05 Mar, 2021 - 11:05PM

Attraction from a photo ... such a lack of depth. So much more to this than that if you're serious with what you're looking for.

I've had success on here ... long term affairs x 2 and some flings inbetween. It takes time and effort, commitment and being honest with yourself and potential partners in what you want. A considered approach. Attraction comes after all that, not a photo ...

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Reef7765 - 05 Mar, 2021 - 09:28PM

A no is a no, i don’t really understand it, people need to accept it an d move on… it seems some can’t take rejection.

We aren’t single, this is a very much a pick and choose what you want site… second chances for what we(you) want ..

and yes, i’ve had my fair shares of “nos” and also the odd “yes” 😉

Have a good evening people, the weekend approaches x

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1436596 - 05 Mar, 2021 - 08:46PM

Mary Contrary - 05 Mar, 2021 - 02:23PM

I tend to avoid those also that say they are in town regular. Especially when they list other locations. Us Manc ladies are no pushover 👊

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