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1559350 - 04 Nov, 2022 - 09:06PM

Well that debate was an entertaining read 😂

All jokes aside. I trust my gut, trust yours.

1447655 - 04 Nov, 2022 - 08:43PM

Conrad, Aiden, Paula99 😘😘😘!

As TBH pointed out yesterday, you can even set your profile to 'looking for friendship'. And you just never know when something is going to come to an end, as these type of relationships are so fragile. And you do make friends along the way. Plus not all affairs are simple or black and white, or even explainable frankly 🙈! The forum offers advice and support (although sometimes antagonism). And its not as if an empty marriges get any easier (although loads of member have wonderful marriages, I know...) What we do is pretty difficult, extreme even. I wish it was possible to be clear cut, but that's not whst this is. It's the inbetween world of relationships.

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1539474 - 04 Nov, 2022 - 07:18PM

As Human Beings we each have our own conditions of worth.
For me an affair should be a special space, valuable and a melding of two souls., not disposable and barren.

I wouldn’t judge others after all I slept around in my past.

Remaining on IE once partnered is a very personal choice built on many factors such as not knowing how a new encounter is going to pan-out.

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1541744 - 04 Nov, 2022 - 07:13PM

Sorry Paula.
That part didn't quite come across right.
I was trying to say that even if we offer exclusivity to our bodies that it should not mean that there is necessarily exclusivity on our conversation.
This is one of the few places that I have seen any kind of support network for those having a secret affair and it should be cherished. Where else could you ask about things forbidden.
I have some amazing friends who are wise and forgiving but I don't know that any of them would be able to offer me the support and knowlage that is available here without there being some cost or negative impact.

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1559952 - 04 Nov, 2022 - 06:59PM

How much do you really know someone? And how long does it take before you can predict their behaviour...if ever...and should it ever be about 'control'.???

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Paula99 - 04 Nov, 2022 - 06:28PM

Aiden47 ….

What is wrong with having a support network ?

Let’s face it who can we discuss our IEs with and some are new to the pit plus we all need advice at some point .

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1541744 - 04 Nov, 2022 - 05:27PM

With the exception of those on here who are single and don't want a permanent partner getting under foot, and those of us who are in an open relationship, those of us who are here and embarking on an illicit affair are by definition cheats and liars.
However if we promise exclusive access to our bodies are we also promising that our conversations with other people will stop and that we will not make use of the limited support network that this site offers.
Should I have an IE then how would I know that she wasn't also seeing her AM or her fish or indeed the nice man who comes to service the boiler.
It seems that it is all down to the conversation that we should be having before embarking upon our little liaison.
But to be cheated on by our cheat withs must surely hurt like being smacked with a hot irony.
One of my favourite quotes is "Life IS pain Highness, and anyone who tells you otherwise is selling something!"

And now that I am feeling like a goat I shall crawl back under my bridge.

Have a grea

ExoticOrchid - 04 Nov, 2022 - 04:03PM

Lb7 - 03:55PM

Indeed!

Unfortunately many are immature even though they are here.

My opinion is that it is up to each couple to work out what works for them. It has nothing to do with anyone else.

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Lucy belle 7 - 04 Nov, 2022 - 03:55PM

If you’re mature enough to be on this site then you’re mature enough to deal with the issues that arise

1447655 - 04 Nov, 2022 - 03:38PM

Say you convince them to come off here, they will just simply join other agencies that you're not on. They'll be texting with their ex's to see what could be picked up, messaging one of the contacts they got previously on I.E. There are so many reasons why someone can't stop looking and so many ways they can still be doing it, you can't control it. And if you try you're just going to drive them away to an easier option. It's sad but true. You have to hope that what you have will develop and withstand. If its got legs, interest in other people should, after time, naturally decline. And if it hasn't...they'll just keep on looking for that illusive thing they want (and it's usually thinner, younger and better looking.)

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