What do we really disclose?
Meeting a new person is always exciting. However most of us are meeting illicitly. What are your boundaries when disclosing personal details? Do we reveal our full names, places of work, give details about our family? What type of information are you willing to share? How much is too much?
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1622807 - 25 Oct, 2023 - 06:37PM
I used to think that OPSEC (operational security) in affairs was akin to that of a witness protection programme, aliases and all. However given that personal safety for women is very real in this domain, and that STI results may be exchanged breaches in OPSEC are often necessary,
There is no hard and fast rule, just common sense. But it must always be acknowledged that the more details you give out the greater the likelihood of getting caught - and you never really know who someone is until they're really tested!
mipaulac - 24 Oct, 2023 - 12:42AM
You've got to have a incredibly good memory if you completely lie. Facts quickly fall out of place when you get to know someone causing duplicious doubts come to mind.
Cheesypuff - 22 Oct, 2023 - 06:57PM
I enjoy declothing more than disclosing.
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Life is a beach - 21 Oct, 2023 - 11:58PM
Initially be cautious. Find more as you are in contact with each other, build trust, trust your gut and only share all if you feel you can trust that special person. If your gut tells you not to trust them, listen to it!
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Jays199 - 21 Oct, 2023 - 11:23PM
I’m new here, but hoping most of the answers are being honest as you can, without risking others, those you know and those you hope to.
Although role-play, is a wonderful thing.
1620851 - 21 Oct, 2023 - 05:13PM
Always be honest, what’s the point in lying? It creates mistrust when trust should be top priority in what we are doing but having said that, no one needs to know anything too personal right off the bat and if things develop you can disclose as much as you want, but just don’t lie.
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1494077 - 21 Oct, 2023 - 02:52PM
Bobbie100+ - 21 Oct, 2023 - 12:36PM
Agree. Anybody who knows what they’re doing will understand the need for people to warm up in their own time and not badger on about personal details until a firm and trusted connection is made. The pushier people are, the more I withdraw. And then I get told I’m hard work 😏
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1575033 - 21 Oct, 2023 - 12:47PM
I did offer my passport and driving licence to a very early IE first meeting but they were declined with the comment, "no need , thoughtful of you but I can use my own judgement",
we met for a couple of years until circumstances changed.
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1575033 - 21 Oct, 2023 - 12:36PM
What happens on IE should stay on IE,
Personal details, avoid precise details i.e ( no pun intended ) home address and surname
until real trust established and then only if relevant.
Any proper IE and all this kind of thing is easy.
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