What do we really disclose?
Meeting a new person is always exciting. However most of us are meeting illicitly. What are your boundaries when disclosing personal details? Do we reveal our full names, places of work, give details about our family? What type of information are you willing to share? How much is too much?
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Stargeek - 19 Apr, 2025 - 07:00PM
So glad l read this thread as new to this but has given me a little insight into what to do and not so thank you fellow I.e peeps
laugar164 - 19 Apr, 2025 - 12:25PM
I never disclose anything nor do I ask if it going to be a long term affair which I have had and the trust is there than you may disclose somethings
But only if you both feel comfortable
I've had the experience of an excuse the pun Easter week but she was a bunny boiler who stalked me. Not nice
Man_Alive_2025 - 19 Apr, 2025 - 11:26AM
Keep it broad at the start. Accurate but not specific. For example, don’t mention your job title but talk about the field you work in. Don’t mention the village you live in but say you live near the biggest well know town. If you move off IE onto another platform then make it less broad as trust develops. It’s just common sense really.
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Paula99 - 19 Apr, 2025 - 09:10AM
Yorky boy 1964…
We know why we have affairs but the question is ….what do we disclose?
yorky boy1964 - 02 Feb, 2025 - 11:08AM
Illicit meetings means excitement,sexual chemistry and a new zest for life x
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1744535 - 02 Feb, 2025 - 10:07AM
Never disclose detailed information about any topic. Give just enough facts that allow conversation to flow. "What you do" is ok, "where you work and your position" is not. At least not at the beginning.
I will spare you the story of a woman who stalked me after a few chats in this site... it was going well but something didn't feel right so i ended it (respectfully!) but she got quite upset.
She then somehow got my Linkedin and even met me outside my work to challenge me on my decision... luckily it was diffused and no harm came of it but it was quite scary at the time. I simply do not compromise on safety anymore and discretion is critical for me.
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1739420 - 02 Feb, 2025 - 10:01AM
Ultimately go with your gut feeling, closest town/city is good enough to meet. Any details you discuss with your date should always be 100% discrete and go to the grave with you, end of!
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