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1575033 - 01 Mar, 2024 - 10:54AM

From my point of view an IE is for additional recreation and comfort and is best used for that, not to make up for inadequacies elsewhere.
Some escapism, being the real you without the baggage that has become you.
Sexually enjoying what you feel you cannot when mixed with "married" life.
Occasional unloading can help but nothing heavy.
An IE can remind you what / who you are and not what you have got used to and assist in a readjustment. ( Advert by me ends)

FluffyClouds - 26 Feb, 2024 - 01:09PM

Hope Springs -

I couldn't have put it better myself.

It is draining. And when those issues in their life impact on your life and the affair; the let downs and excuses because of their 'car crash' situation in their home life interfering incessantly with plans and meets (we have our own lives, time and re-arrangements to make too) it does start to become a mental and emotional grind...the fun starts to feel like a chore... Plans in place, will they change, will something crop up AGAIN in their shit show life? It is unpleasant, unhealthy and ultimately a form of psychological abusive.

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1648772 - 26 Feb, 2024 - 12:32PM

I'm all for having open communication and my partner being able to talk about their stresses etc but if it is a bit too much, too often, it can be very draining.

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1642853 - 25 Feb, 2024 - 10:11AM

This has been a major issue for me. So many men sign up as a distraction to their real life problems - I've heard it all, truly. If you're a feeling person you do sympathise but after a long time of helping and supporting someone you care about it is incredibly draining. What was supposed to be an additive to your life becomes another source of strain - as if work, family, kids, money isn't enough! You end up being like the Samaritan Service. I've borne the weight of this for a long time, and it has truly worn me down.

Aside from this, those with significant personal problems are more inclined to suddenly disappear. Like an unstable chemical, they are impulsive, depressed, their self-esteem can be shakey and they are more inclined to pull the plug suddenly, which can be incredibly hurtful, and when they do this repeatedly it becomes emotionally abusive. Their problems cause you to have problems!

I'm currently taking time out from 'this' because of these issues. It depleats your soul.

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leggysheila - 24 Feb, 2024 - 04:55PM

Leave the emotional baggage at home your here to get laid XXX

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1651227 - 24 Feb, 2024 - 12:50PM

To my mind, there's a difference between dumping your emotional baggage (which is a no no for me, it's just whinging, basically) and sharing how you feel about things that matter to you (which is fine, in fact I like it).

Emphasis on the word 'sharing' there, I think, communication is a two way street. I find people who talk but don't listen a total turn off. Heh, I'm listening...

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Enigma.. - 24 Feb, 2024 - 09:41AM

BlessedTounge…

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Enigma.. - 24 Feb, 2024 - 09:29AM

FluffyClouds…

Got it in a nutshell 💋

Japnee - 24 Feb, 2024 - 08:31AM

Yes personal problems aren’t really my thing and don’t like talking about them to anyone. Conversations usually end up diverting into arguments about topics we barely know anything about

Doctor13702 - 22 Feb, 2024 - 02:08PM

When I have been with someone for a while it's natural that talk of their family life enters into the conversation.

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