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Boredwifejane - 28 Apr, 2024 - 07:54AM

The things that women are looking for can't be wrapped up in that simple description.

Just be yourself and keep at it , nothing good just happens immediately

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Life is a beach - 27 Apr, 2024 - 10:24PM

Pink Eiga and Paula99, spot on!
Sometimes you don't realise you have something special until it is gone.
Sifting through the haystack:
I did meet a couple of nice people but there was no spark. I met a player in a public place who had no care of my time .
It is just as difficult for women looking for that special someone.
There was this beautiful person who messaged me when I was in contact with the player. He then found someone and told me. It was a weird feeling of loss then but I was happy for him.
The player thing ended, luckily I had only met him in public once.
Guess what, the lady didn't work for this beautiful person!
I found the needle, someone attractive, caring, intelligent and so much fun to be with. Yes, it exists, I treasure every single moment and hope ot continues for years to come. Yes, I have read that affairs can last years. I hope ours does.
There is tha rare needle that you may find, if you do, treasure it. I do.

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Pink Eiga - 27 Apr, 2024 - 02:42PM

Paula99 - 27 Apr, 2024 - 12:43PM

If it’s good, it’s worth preserving 💯

Sometimes, even in affairs, people don’t know what they’ve lost until they’ve lost it.

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Paula99 - 27 Apr, 2024 - 12:43PM

It does seem that 6 months to a year is the ‘shelf life’ for most affairs…..but!!!

There are people I know that are near to a decade and over ……that’s a mean feat and it shows that some are willing to go the extra mile to preserve and cherish what they already have …❤️

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1664597 - 27 Apr, 2024 - 11:32AM

It's luck, like with anything in life. Right place, right time and you just click. You need to put yourself out there though and to a degree create your own luck.

I'm back here again (with a new account) after finding a wonderful IE early last year. Sadly 6 months in it ended. So after a pause to reset myself, here I am fir hopefully a second great connection.

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boav91 - 27 Apr, 2024 - 10:20AM

The Thing I learnt is for men it is not easy at all. I dont think I am that niche but we all have things we are more attracted to than not. It took me what around 6 months from when I first joined on and off to find someone who had the right mix of looks and personality that I think will hopefully lead to a long term affair rather than a quick fling. Going well so far.

So I guess it is certainly possible just not easy and simple

I have to say though I really think the internet dating scene makes some parts of this easier but in many other ways I found it so much harder to connect than meeting and chatting to people pre internet. Shows how long ago I was dating before joining this site.

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NinaOakley - 27 Apr, 2024 - 03:54AM

I’m not currently looking for a new partner, though I enjoy the discussion on here because of the frankness one does not find in real life.

When I was looking I actively avoided profiles that made reference to how professional, social, athletic or well groomed a man was, or any reference to their expectations of similar requirements in a woman. (Knows how to dress/take care of herself etc.)

I’m short, fat, bite my nails, never wear heels and rarely wear make-up. If we got to the stage where you had your tongue in my mouth you’d notice a few dental issues. (I’m very phobic of the dentist, I ignore them if I’m not in agony.)

I can do interesting conversation. I am actually a very nice, caring lady. I enjoy dog walks. I came on here hoping to find a friend who was also willing to be a respectful and exciting sexual partner without a level of commitment I can’t offer.

I’ve found one, so there is hope!

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1660660 - 26 Apr, 2024 - 11:38PM

@LadyDuchess, you are right to an extent, but not all men are in the same situation. Some know that a relationship can lead to more enjoyment than a series of one night stands. But you are probably right about the roast and the walk 🤣

GrahamFitz - 26 Apr, 2024 - 11:32PM

@LadyDuchess I think you've got the right idea. If people are specific about what they're looking for in their profile, it saves everybody time.
I think there's enough of a niche on IE for the OP, although I might be biased because I'm in London, so sampling from a bigger pool. If somewhere less densely populated, one might just need to be prepared to travel.

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LadyDuchess - 26 Apr, 2024 - 11:18PM

This is such an interesting thread, sorry it’s a tough gig for the boys.

As a female, I have a very specific profile in the hope to meet my match. In my experience many of the male profiles sound the same - and do men honestly just want a roast and a long walk?

Most don’t want anything more serious than a ONS - which is fine but best to pop this on your profile. I think ask for what you really want and then meet the right person..

What’s your view?

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