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Enigma.. - 04 Jul, 2024 - 02:32PM

@Paula99

I totally agree with your post.

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Paula99 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 02:31PM

Aim to please48…

It does sound as if it’s kind of all one sided in reality and I appreciate that you are trying to ‘help’ her find the type of sex she prefers but in the end who is kidding who ?

Aim to please48 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 02:06PM

Hey Paula99,
Totally appreciate your feedback and yes, we’ve not even got as far as sleeping with anyone else yet and I’ve felt all sorts of unpleasant feelings of what you describe. Think my wife had to but she’s in pretty deep now and loving the attention she’s getting.
The reason for us making this decision is because my wife wants what I’m not comfortable giving her, hard spankings etc, not me at all and it’s something she really wants to explore. So actually it was my idea to open the relationship, to make her happy and I think to actually in the end save our marriage. I know, sounds crazy.
She thinks it would do me good to explore a bit with other women to possibly give me more confidence etc and ultimately help in our own relationship.
To be honest I’m pretty much at the point of just letting her get on with it and me deleting my account. I’m not fussed about sleeping with other women.
IE for me is basically just trying to keep my mind occupied and away from the situation.

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ExoticOrchid - 04 Jul, 2024 - 01:47PM

feyes - 12:55PM

In this OP's case, both are willing therefore they are very much suited for swinging.

I also agree with P99's comment ... been there, done it, got the Tshirt ... never again.

1408586 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 01:47PM

It is possible (likely) that she will find sex outside your marriage and you won’t…

I think you need to make sure you’re comfortable with that before taking things further!

As a woman having an affair, a man in an open relationship with a good sex life where I would possibly be discussed in some form between the couple would be VERY off putting. But that’s just me

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Paula99 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 01:30PM

If your sex life is that good between you both …why are you looking for something more ..

Open relationships are a minefield …one of you you will be insecure/jealous …

My take on this ….I would never get involved with a couple who are ‘testing the waters’ ..

Good luck

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fmeeyes - 04 Jul, 2024 - 12:55PM

It wouldn’t personally bother me but I guess affairs demand discretion and secrecy and you don’t really need either, perhaps some people consider that risky? Also, I think women typically come off better on these sites and in open relationships from what I’ve seen and experienced. Perhaps it doesn’t need to be on your profile and can be disclosed to someone you have been speaking with. Don’t expect that she’s flooded with great offers either - I also am inundated and most don’t warrant a reply.
Also, as someone who has been in your wife’s position in terms of desire but with a husband unwilling to open the relationship - swinging is not going to satisfy that need.

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1680841 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 12:11PM

If this were me in the same situation, I'd be asking the wife for her feedback on the guys she's attracting then base my profile on that feedback. This is after all in both your interests that this work.

Yes, it's a bit sneaky but hey: "...never look a gift horse....."

You potentially have first hand experience of good/poor behaviour from what remains a male rich environment (we've all seen the ratio counter on here!!!). It's just like studying the odds and, if done properly should return a better hit rate for you.

You're welcome 😜

Good luck😎

ExoticOrchid - 04 Jul, 2024 - 12:03PM

Definitely join a swinging site as a couple as suggested by sl4m!

1669370 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 11:54AM

I agree with slimguy321, despite what the figures show for the balance of men to women, some of the women even mention in their profiles that they are inundated with so many messages from men so they might not answer yours or even read it. I would work on the assumption that if you send 20 messages you might get one reply if you're lucky.

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