Comments (43)

Enigma.. - 03 May, 2025 - 09:51AM

Wow…
This thread has certainly opened up a can of worms…

I’m actually laughing out loud again… well I did for about 30 seconds and then…

I’m going to make a statement of fact…

Yes… we all have our preferences and should be able to state them freely and without judgement.

But let’s face it… most members on this site, both male and female, are judgemental.

That’s the problem with these all these dating apps.
Judging people on looks alone… their size, height, age etc…

Having great expectations… then lies are exposed… crash and burn.

It’s time to wake up and start being transparent… Ie (excuse the pun) stop chasing a fantasy that will not come true.

Unless you are realistic you’ll get nowhere on this site.

And so ends the sermon for today… 😉.

Love from a plain speaking Scottish female 😉❤️💋🍀

 3 members like this comment.

boav91 - 03 May, 2025 - 08:15AM

The one things I have been judged on and rejected as a reason on this site more than anything else are height and background. Neither of those I have control over. Everything I am and achieved has nothing to do with those things but it is the first call for so many on here. That is my experince at least.

I have had people say I am ok looking or can be funny but the above things are the reason for rejection

The reality is if you want a quick NSA meet looks are primary, but if you want longer term you need to look beyond just basics of things people cannot do anything about.

Dad bods you can work on, fitness you can improve, although let’s be realistic 40+ years of life does take its toll and it gets harder to maintain that Adonis look.

We all in reality have a “type” we prefer but there is something about you don’t know in some ways if you don’t try. Sometimes that which you least expect is what is the most exciting.

Fortunately there are also people who did not mind these things

 2 members like this comment.

VagaVaga - 02 May, 2025 - 10:36PM

Height might be an important asset if you're intending to have a career in basketball but it's not advantageous if you're doing gymnastics. Bottom line: People have different tastes, and what matters to one person might be irrelevant to another.: Emotional connection, trust, and understanding often outweigh physical specifics.

 2 members like this comment.

Paula99 - 02 May, 2025 - 10:28PM

If we all stated obviously what we are thinking then IE would end up like one of those God awful cheap chat rooms …thank goodness it’s moderated ….🧐

Stargazer9711 - 02 May, 2025 - 09:46PM

It’s all about time and we don’t have all the time in the world to engage in a meaningful conversation with every man or woman we bump into onto here .. so to help improve our chances of success I don’t see why one can’t be specific about physical traits and it would usually be based on our ex partners.. :-)
The only downside here is that one may miss out on a gem based on a superficial evaluation.. as who knows that person you reject might be a gorgeous soul once you have peeled the layers like and onion.. let’s not forget physical traits can be improved and enhanced .. the soul stays the same!

Cheryl Kim - 02 May, 2025 - 09:20PM

It isn’t difficult to tower over me, however I do draw the line when I, as a petite woman, can see the top of his head without having to tip toe.

Conversely, I have no qualms about answering a man’s questions about my physical stats, if he reciprocates with his.

We can’t all be attracted to the same physical traits. Horses for courses.

 4 members like this comment.

2025maybe - 02 May, 2025 - 07:29PM

I think given what we are all mostly on here it's important to take time to find the right person who fits for you.
Part of this is physical appearance.
I think one of the worst things that could happen is your lower your preferences and then that effects the outcome of your affair.
I think we are all grown ups and likely to have took time out to think before coming on here. I think so long as your polite and respectful it shouldn't be an issue.
I speak to a few guys who I have been honest with and vice versa but its nice to have people to talk to in similar situation x peace ✌️

 1 member likes this comment.

SirrahNek - 02 May, 2025 - 07:28PM

Emnem

Okay. So the way I look at it (and perhaps, sadly, it does need to be stated), if you’re on the pull then show some respect to the person you’re trying to pull. Even if, as I maintain, the primary attractor is intellectual, any burgeoning romance is going to die very bloody fast if the person has poor personal hygiene and hasn’t made an effort about their appearance.

 1 member likes this comment.

EmnEm123 - 02 May, 2025 - 06:43PM

SirraNek

Come on!

Smokers with dirty teeth, people in general who don't visit a dentist?

People who don't eat a reasonable diet or can walk the length of themselves?

Dad bod? Ask the men on here, this place is the only place I've ever seen it, frequently.

I take it to mean, I've let myself go, completely."

SirrahNek - 02 May, 2025 - 05:44PM

Emnem - I mean, that’s fair enough - but shouldn’t good personal hygiene go without saying?

By the way - what is a “dad bod’?