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Unwoke! - 16 Jan, 2025 - 01:50PM

Personally, if I see a phrase in a lady's profile that says she wants to 'spoiled', I tend to stop reading at that point and move on.
In my (albeit limited) experience this flags a "sugar daddy!" alert.

1741690 - 16 Jan, 2025 - 01:24PM

Doubleohseven

Believe me there are a hell of a lot of male pic collectors on here too who obviously like to peruse their "naughty" little gallery when they're a bit bored.

Worst red flags are the guys who say they wont risk putting photos on here, so lets have your email address and Ill gladly show them to you!
Yeah sure!!!!

Doubleohseven - 16 Jan, 2025 - 08:43AM

Frequently a lady makes a preliminary pw request in her profile or in her reply to a 1st message. "Preliminary" meaning: you show me yours, but statistically I am unlikely to show you mine. Usually she motivates the request with the objective of "saving time", even when she's been on IE, "saving time", for an eternity. But I don't send my pw to someone I have not talked to for a while. Too risky, and it doesn't screen out pic collectors and fantasists. Rather, in my 1st message I explain, with humour, why I am not going to do that. The fantasists don't reply, but the (rare) type of lady I am after reads my message, then my profile and may be intrigued. Or not - 2 of my longer term lovers almost dismissed my initial, pw-denying message as being a tad too self confident. I am sure some interesting ladies do dismiss it. But I only ever need 1 to be intrigued... Guys, try this approach. And if you want to go back to the old one, don't worry. The pic collectors will still be here. "Saving time".

ExoticOrchid - 14 Jan, 2025 - 11:52PM

My personal opinion is that the person who requests the password should be prepared to give theirs in return.

However, if a password is given without being asked, then I don't see why the recipient should be obliged to give theirs unless they want to.

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WilliamNorth - 14 Jan, 2025 - 11:39PM

Hi All
Although looks are one of the primary reasons we choose to pursue a potential match , I think it unfair men are expected to be transparent hence the reason a percentage of ladies engage, so I dont see this being a red flag or innapropriate to ask for a picture in return . Why would you not want to see if the attraction is recipricated? Any thoughts on this ? Steve

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Frankie87x - 06 Dec, 2024 - 08:44AM

I’m genuinely surprised at how many people thinking a photo pw request is a red flag. I’ve come back to 16 unread messages -I’m not going to have a long meaningful chat with all of them before knowing if I’m even physically attracted to that person. I’ll say thanks for the pw but I’m sorry, it’s not a match, best of luck and usually it’s gracefully received-I’ve also been called a picky wh**e for it…can’t please everyone

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Hugtastic - 05 Dec, 2024 - 03:22PM

Is it just me or are there numerous pic collectors who want to view you, but don't reciprocate even if it's a no thanks. Just plain rude, no manners. As for blocking immediately had that too and after an initially polite opening message.
Could understand it if someone was pestering you or level of unwanted messaging as thats what block/report is for but people need to seriously lighten up!
No doubt I'll get it in the neck for this too🤣

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Testingthewater321 - 04 Dec, 2024 - 11:59PM

I think you have to be attracted to your IE partner but I’m more into someone if their personality and attitude is right. I think there is so much superficial nonsense about looking good people pass by a brilliant opportunity to have an all round connection. You can be the best looking girl or guy here but if you aren’t mentally matched it’s irrelevant.

Paula99 - 04 Dec, 2024 - 08:13PM

Looks are somewhat important as they come under first impressions.. there has to be some visual appeal…if you are saying it doesn’t apply then your lying ..but looks are not everything..if you are not attracted to their personality/ demeanour then the person becomes unattractive…I have on dates with regular guys with a personality of a fence post 👎…I have also been on dates with guys that I wasn’t initially attracted to ….
Red flags are there for a reason …if the guy/lady asks you for your Pw in the first instance that should give you an indication that he/she requires someone to make them look good 🙄

Clickable Connection - 04 Dec, 2024 - 06:50PM

I'm actually finding this thread quite funny.

Ok so I do agree , instant password requests are most definitely a red flag - male of female.

However ....... For those pretending that looks are not a factor .... please!!! We want to be attracted to our IE partner - that attraction comes in many forms, but physical attraction is most definitely one of them, at least as a initial indicator. It's not everything, but to say it's not even a consideration, is probably abit disingenuous IMO.

Also given that most folks , men and women ask for a password early on ...I'd say that's a good indicator of what most think about looks.

Like I said it's not everything, but it's a consideration - and yes instant password requests huge red flags

Let the back lash begin 😂😂

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