How can you tell?
How can you tell if your prospective IE is just as great in real life as they seem in their chat? I'm loving talking online, and I really hope he lives up to my expectations...How can I certify my gut feelings!
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Purple dreamer - 07 Jul, 2025 - 03:15PM
Guess you will never know to you met , hopefully you have seen an UpToDate pic or that could be another let down
Coldtoast - 07 Jul, 2025 - 01:59PM
You can never tell. Red flags can come any time, any place, anywhere.
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Dan5678 - 07 Jul, 2025 - 01:52PM
How can you tell? Meet them.
By all means, exchange messages to see if you get any red flags or green ones.
By all means, take appropriate precautions for your own physical safety, and keep things anonymous (eg use Telegram)
The problem is the longer you go on chatting the more you're likely to build this person up in your mind into Mr/Ms Perfect. And the more likely you will be disappointed when you finally meet them and they don't quite live up to that ideal.
You will only really know when you meet them and you can spend a lot of time and emotional energy chatting to someone who you realise is not for you within a few minutes of meeting.
But as they used to say on Hill Street Blues... "Be careful out there!"
TJ40380 - 05 Jul, 2025 - 08:29PM
If it sounds realistic then maybe, but also look for other signs like consistency, look for the frequently used key words and how they string sentences together.
A lack of anyone of these things maybe be the start of a red flag
87athleticbrown7size - 05 Jul, 2025 - 06:08PM
Some people get satisfied from online fantasy and rest only from real adventures. Only you know who you are.
I'm for real meets than online chats and thoughts. Life is too short to spend it online thinking about expectations.
Personally, if through chats it's obvious that they are not terrorists or scams and they like my photos and verification then it's better to get into fun meet without playing hide and seek online.
JustAGuy97 - 05 Jul, 2025 - 06:05PM
It can be very different going from communication via text/messaging to real conversation. A happy medium to test the waters could be a phone call? But as other have said, sometimes you’ve just gotta take the plunge and meet and truly see
Samsherman79 - 05 Jul, 2025 - 10:54AM
I agree with Paula, yet I am completely new to this 🤣.
But Id say the only way you know the feels are true is to meet and see, and maybe temper expectations incase? Or is that impossible lol
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Paula99 - 05 Jul, 2025 - 10:32AM
I can usually read inbetween the lines and my gut feeling is always right
BUT…
The only way to decide if your prospective IE lives up to the dream is meet ….😊
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