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How can you tell?

How can you tell if your prospective IE is just as great in real life as they seem in their chat? I'm loving talking online, and I really hope he lives up to my expectations...How can I certify my gut feelings!

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Dan5678 - 07 Jul, 2025 - 01:52PM

How can you tell? Meet them.

By all means, exchange messages to see if you get any red flags or green ones.

By all means, take appropriate precautions for your own physical safety, and keep things anonymous (eg use Telegram)

The problem is the longer you go on chatting the more you're likely to build this person up in your mind into Mr/Ms Perfect. And the more likely you will be disappointed when you finally meet them and they don't quite live up to that ideal.

You will only really know when you meet them and you can spend a lot of time and emotional energy chatting to someone who you realise is not for you within a few minutes of meeting.

But as they used to say on Hill Street Blues... "Be careful out there!"


TJ40380 - 05 Jul, 2025 - 08:29PM

If it sounds realistic then maybe, but also look for other signs like consistency, look for the frequently used key words and how they string sentences together.
A lack of anyone of these things maybe be the start of a red flag


87athleticbrown7size - 05 Jul, 2025 - 06:08PM

Some people get satisfied from online fantasy and rest only from real adventures. Only you know who you are.

I'm for real meets than online chats and thoughts. Life is too short to spend it online thinking about expectations.

Personally, if through chats it's obvious that they are not terrorists or scams and they like my photos and verification then it's better to get into fun meet without playing hide and seek online.


JustAGuy97 - 05 Jul, 2025 - 06:05PM

It can be very different going from communication via text/messaging to real conversation. A happy medium to test the waters could be a phone call? But as other have said, sometimes you’ve just gotta take the plunge and meet and truly see


Fiealn - 05 Jul, 2025 - 12:39PM

Seems nice and I have meet nice people


Boredhusband1983 - 05 Jul, 2025 - 12:27PM

New to this 41 Blackpool hello everyone


Samsherman79 - 05 Jul, 2025 - 10:54AM

I agree with Paula, yet I am completely new to this 🤣.

But Id say the only way you know the feels are true is to meet and see, and maybe temper expectations incase? Or is that impossible lol

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Paula99 - 05 Jul, 2025 - 10:32AM

I can usually read inbetween the lines and my gut feeling is always right

BUT…

The only way to decide if your prospective IE lives up to the dream is meet ….😊

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AsianGent1986 - 29 Aug, 2024 - 06:25PM

How would you certify a great sounding guy on a normal dating platform? You can’t. iE is the same.

Sometimes things are not as organic in person. It is what it is. But as they say, nothing ventured, nothing gained.


Exciteme234 - 24 Aug, 2024 - 06:55PM

Always go with your gut feel, that’s all we’ve got on here

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