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Electricity - 20 May, 2020 - 03:44PM

Most people don't want to be alone. So we seek each other out and spend our lives together.
That goes beyond sex.
So often the physical intamcy side just breaks down, but the rest remains.
But that often leaves a big hole in our lives.
One of the main but not only reasons for many of us being here.

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1117169 - 20 May, 2020 - 02:46PM

@Dancing In The Rain

I empathise with you completely, but talking to your partner about lack of intimacy won't make them fancy you again if there is no obvious " Fixable" issue, like tiredness or lack of opportunity. You might as well give a cat a good talking to to try to stop it catching birds. Its instinct and primal drive.

Lack of desire for a long term partner happens frequently and nobody is necessarily to blame.

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Here Comes Your Man - 20 May, 2020 - 01:45PM

I think monogamy is natural, only up to a certain point... such as when the kids have flown the nest!

Dancing In The Rain - 20 May, 2020 - 01:34PM

Every one is different, but i would happily be faithful if my marriage had intimacy.

Believe me when I say we've talked it over many times and I've tried everything to light the fire but it is what it is. So I find myself here. 😉

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CroydonCentaur - 20 May, 2020 - 01:26PM

I think that - as with most complex and interpersonal situations- the answer is a matter of nuance, personal choice and shades of grey. (at least 50...)
Would it technically be more optimal, efficient and ideal if we all had one partner, for life, and all were satisfied?
Yes of Course.
But, we dont live in in an ideal.
We have our own wants, desires, drives. Needs.
Sexual, spiritual, physical. And sometimes these conflict with our partners.
Sometimes we want More, sometimes we want difference.
Sometimes we might just want to feel Loved, -or even feel Fucked; by someone else.
Sometimes, we fall in Love, with a whole new person, aswell as our Partner.

Everyones domestic life, personal choices, and Adultery Dynamic, will be slightly different shaped, and slightly differently motivated.
IE hopefully allows us a forum to discover someone to share similar mindsets, desires, wants - and to share bodies.

Thus, monogamy is not unnatural, -but, trying to apply the same formula to all is.

Happy Playing

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Bugwithone - 20 May, 2020 - 12:43PM

Monogamy is natural, as is wondering if you are missing out on something!

We are complex creatures and as you get older you either embrace your lot as its not that bad or you scratch that itch! I take people as they come and not judge decisions made that have make them happy!

Unless it’s malicious of course!

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Auralistic - 20 May, 2020 - 12:37PM

Hmm interesting .
By just being on IE you would think that the majority opinion would be that its unatural, however there are some contradictions to that . . . Many here . . Both sexes are here to find an alternative patner whilst still staying married but also expect their partner in crime to be monogamous ! . . . and take great exception to them not being .

Then you have the situation in nature where various animals are known to pair off for life ! . .So logically its possible to assume there are parts of nature where monogamy is natural . . .and yet most of nature isnt !

Im just thankful that the female of the human race does not have the traits of certain spiders or preying mantis that have a nasty desire of eating their mate !

My conclusion is that it is both natural and unatural depending on . . . . Your desires and opinion.

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1117169 - 20 May, 2020 - 12:36PM

Whilst a wife might still want sex with her husband or partner, it is very very common for men who have had a fairly long marriage / relationship to no longer be aroused by their partner, simply because that's one of the unfortunate traits of male sexuality. Viagra is useless unless the man is already aroused, and men cannot pretend to be like women can.

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1287112 - 20 May, 2020 - 12:15PM

Why would spend all morning chatting to someone then ask for their picture and don't even reply saying sorry not my type or anything is it rude nothing at all even if someone had 3 heads surly you'd say no thank you

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ExoticOrchid - 20 May, 2020 - 11:31AM

AAGilfan - 20 May, 2020 - 11:06AM
" Maybe she is having her fun too"

Indeed … otherwise where are all the married women on IE from! :-)

I find it quite amusing when men think their wives wouldn't do anything like this yet they are on a site contacting married women!!!

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