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Sandypops - 23 Sep, 2023 - 02:52AM

We all have a slightly different interpretation of the word casual. Surely the only way to know what another's interpretation is, is to chat and ask.
Some of us may have 'evolved' whilst being here, others may know exactly what they are looking for and won't deviate from that. I've certainly tried out a number of different approaches, to find what I really want and what works for me.
I've also found, from experience, that a man may say he wants a long term affair and be very convincing on meeting, only to vanish with some bull excuse!
I think, and hope, I'm learning how to weed out the disingenuous men but it's not always easy.

Oh and update on me .... I've tried to apply all your wonderful, helpful advice and I think I'm finally moving on from the guy who messed my head, with the help of a lovely 🤞🏼 man who I hope will soon be my ie. Keep everything crossed he doesn't turn out to be an A-hole 😂

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1509382 - 22 Sep, 2023 - 11:19PM

My experience of wanting casual generally means move on they are time wasters living in cloud cuckoo land
The site is called IE so be sincere in your needs
Gary

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1447655 - 22 Sep, 2023 - 10:39PM

Instant delete.

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QueenLilith - 22 Sep, 2023 - 10:39PM

It’s not for me as I’m looking for a serious relationship, a lovely man with potential to become my second (or maybe third and fourth) husband. Then I could have a few husbands and live happily ever after. Please don’t judge I simply have a big heart. 🥹

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Enigma.. - 22 Sep, 2023 - 07:21PM

Evening….
Seeing the word casual or short term on a males profile suggests, to me personally, he’s looking for one night stands or something over a short period of time.
As in days or a couple of weeks.
I’ll then ask/message said male what they are actually looking for?!?
I personally would not be interested in someone who is going to sleep with several women from the site on a casual or short term basis.
Just saying….

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Boudicca - 22 Sep, 2023 - 05:53PM

I think it comes down to personal interpretation of the word casual.
I am not deterred by the word casual.

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Delicious Chaos - 22 Sep, 2023 - 04:16PM

If it says casual I’m not interested, I can get that elsewhere. Here I’m looking for a proper affair, a commitment - if that’s not on the cards you’re not for me

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DefinitelyMightBe - 22 Sep, 2023 - 02:41PM

I guess different folk are looking for different things on here, we are not all in the same boat or same stage in life. That’s why it’s important to talk to somebody you think you’d perhaps be interested in and be honest with what you are looking for.

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1602069 - 22 Sep, 2023 - 12:32PM

i would say casual and long term affair would be my goal, no looking to leave my current wife or upset anybody else's family or marriage situation. not looking to sleep around either regular meetup with a nice female for fun and giggles :-)

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logicboy - 22 Sep, 2023 - 12:08PM

I'm not looking to unnecessarily upset or offend anyone on here but if someone's profile says looking for casual I might message them and explain to them an opportunity I have coming up and whether they could ever be interested in a 6 day fling... (given our distance couldn't realistically be expected to go beyond that)

Well, if they say they find me asking them offensive or rather "rude and condescending" - well, what can you do!!? Maybe audacious... Maybe optimistic... Maybe other things... But rude and condescending???

We're playing with fantasy on here as someone else in another thread pointed out. If we can't even hear an indication of other people's fantasy without taking it personally... Well, it's a shame.

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