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Naughty in NW - 10 Oct, 2023 - 08:06PM

I think what we are prepared to disclose correlates to what type of relationship we are hoping to find on here.

If you are seeking a very casual relationship you might not wish to disclose much at all about yourself. And I guess the expectation to do so it's not really going to be there.

However, if you are looking for a longer term relationships where intimacy involves really getting to know each other, and understand your partner's reason for being here, you might want to share more personal stuff. Each to their own, as long as both your expectations/reservations to share are respected.

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princeofpassion69 - 09 Oct, 2023 - 08:24PM

I think only disclose what you’re comfortable with at the start. There are no hard and fast rules (as it were!), but the main thing is to have fun and feel safe and comfortable with each other. If it’s for you, it won’t go by you, right?

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Toffee.macchiato4 - 09 Oct, 2023 - 07:51PM

It’s strange here
I have a unique name so I don’t reveal it early on in chats. It’s none of ur business till we meet😁 Genuinely a guys personal business is none of mine till we coffee. Then my curiousity is piqued. 🤔
I’ll ask lots of questions but I suspect a guy will only tell me what he wants me to know
I have no problem with that at all
Occupation is a good start though seems less invasive somehow 🙂

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1622864 - 09 Oct, 2023 - 07:38PM

I had a ridiculous incident with this type of thing on Friday. Someone I thought might be a match started chatting and quite early on revealed her name which just happened to be exactly the same as my wife’s name. This, coupled with other similar details in her profile made me a bit cautious so I held back from offering my name, until I could be sure that my two worlds had not somehow merged. In a very short time I was being accused of being a very nasty politician, which could not be further from the truth… This can be a very weird place… but still, I come back for more.

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1628321 - 09 Oct, 2023 - 07:04PM

It’s a difficult question to answer
You are both consenting adults. Hopefully ironically trustworthy and have already set a few boundaries before you meet.
Although reality is, best keep details a minimum which is difficult as most people are curious and want to ask lots of questions.

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1104299 - 09 Oct, 2023 - 06:54PM

Intuition will tell you whether it’s right or not, until then I keep most details at arms length. I’m very reluctant when the ‘show me your picture’ type ask for a picture at the 2nd message…. I’ve no idea who I’m talking to so why would I send my face over?! Granted I’m not everyone’s cup of tea looks wise, but still… it could be anyone at the other end!

1494077 - 09 Oct, 2023 - 05:18PM

Need to know basis really. There are some things I will reveal and some that I’ll only share when I’m truly comfortable. There are lots of things that people can talk about other than the boring usual details, and still be able to get to know each other and get a connection.

Delicious Chaos - 09 Oct, 2023 - 04:11PM

I remember back in the early days a guy giving me his business car. I thought it odd but he said well at least you know I’m not a weirdo who is going to attack you.
Ok then!

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Geminigeordie - 09 Oct, 2023 - 02:59PM

It’s all about implied trust

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Purple dreamer - 09 Oct, 2023 - 02:45PM

I think on a first meet it is just general information

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