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budgie817 - 30 Mar, 2025 - 05:31PM

A Connection is when you feel totally comfortable with someone, you have a very good idea of who they are and what they are about and they fit in with you.

One will feel that there is a good reason to continue to be around them in whatever capacity going forwards, where that will lead there is no way of knowing.

A Connection is definitely not just starting a conversation but something that builds over time but the time lapsed maybe different for different people and just because for one there is a feeling of connection it doesn't always mean the other person will feel the same.

Shouldn't confuse different types of connections either friendship, lovers, a relationship, or just someone you know are all connections of varying degrees.

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Funguy77 - 30 Mar, 2025 - 03:07PM

Lots to ponder there . And a very good question do I know what great sex is and I think from my point of view I’ll need to be honest and say ..no .

I can honestly say I have lay there afterwards and went omg or wow for myself. Sex for men and sex for women I have come to believe mean totally different things I was educated by a wonderful woman who taught me a valuable lesson.

But I do believe I get the job done lol but perhaps I can be a little guarded at times x

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Here we go 693 - 30 Mar, 2025 - 02:41PM

Trust me, it exists. It may not be there for everyone you encounter, but when you find it, you'll know.

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Cheryl Kim - 30 Mar, 2025 - 02:34PM

Funguy77 - 30 Mar, 2025 - 09:09AM

Or perhaps somewhere in between. The intense connection that takes the physical fancying to another level, yet having the common sense to understand that home lives are to be protected.

For me, ‘connection’ is what takes great sex to ‘omg can’t-put-into-words mindblowing, intoxicating, out-of-this-world’ sex. My vocabulary doesn’t go that far. Once in a while, this connection comes along. Sex, even great sex, is a common enough entity. Connection however, is something special that is worth waiting for.

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Paula99 - 30 Mar, 2025 - 01:56PM

Funguy77…

You can fancy a person but not necessarily feel a connection …..connection comes from emotions and the common practices….you can’t fancy everyone … I have been in a pub full of people and not looked twice at anyone …it’s the same here but in dribs and drabs…
As for the great sex … do you know what great sex is ?..have you ever experienced a deep connection where the sex is off the scale ….sadly most of us haven’t had the pleasure ….and we are all hoping for miracles 😂🤣

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Funguy77 - 30 Mar, 2025 - 09:09AM

“Connection”

I think it’s a bull S**t lazy way just to describe I want to fancy you . There’s lots of people on here who actually don’t know or understand why they are here. Or on the flip side there are people here who are looking for the next lover and who have dreams of running of in to the sunset together. Lol 🤮🤮🤮 .

Here’s something refreshing for you … I just want great sex.

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rarity23 - 20 Sep, 2024 - 11:43AM

I've found that you do build a connection from message 1, and can tell you are going to hit it off.
I'd rather do that, that swap PW from the start, after all, you have a written description of what they are like.

A lot will ask for a PW straight away, and nothing has ever led to anything with those ladies.

Obviously when you meet it's either then going to go somewhere or not, usually building on what you initially started in my experience.

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Unwoke! - 14 Sep, 2024 - 11:08PM

You'll know!

Life is a beach - 14 Sep, 2024 - 10:54PM

The connection does start with the first messages.
I started messaging with my IE before even seeing his picture, yes, risky I know! Either of us could have been Quasimodo 😅. I was and still am excited to check if there is a message there.
We of course exchanged pictures before our first meeting.
I met a couple of people in a public place before my current IE and the chemistry wasn't there on the meeting.
You can tell by the messages but the true connection can only fully develop after meeting the person.

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boav91 - 14 Sep, 2024 - 06:49AM

I have had probably two real connections on ie. They both were very clear once the chat flowed it was easy and in no way effortful. The first was her first time on ie, and she got cold feet before the meet stage so did not happen. The second we met and I am still with. You can easily tell when it clicks from the one message every other day type where it is like pulling hens teeth.

It is hard to define more than it just works and you can pass time without even noticing. It just works

You know when you know and like marklondonengland says, it meant there was an anticipation and connection before we met and that just confirmed we liked each other and wanted to carry on.

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